Why This Matters to You
Let’s be real, we all enjoy a flutter. Whether it’s a cheeky punt on the horses, a spin on the pokies, or exploring a new gaming option, gambling is a part of life for many of us here in Aotearoa. But sometimes, things can get a bit out of hand. We might not be the ones struggling, but the impact of problem gambling can ripple outwards, affecting our partners, families, and friends. Understanding the resources available for them is crucial, even if you’re a regular gambler yourself. It’s about being a good mate, a supportive partner, and knowing where to turn if someone you care about needs help.
Recognising the Signs: Is Someone You Know Struggling?
It’s not always easy to spot when gambling becomes a problem. The signs can be subtle at first, then become more obvious over time. Keep an eye out for these red flags in your loved ones:
- Increased Secrecy: Are they suddenly secretive about their finances or where they’re going? Are they hiding gambling activities from you?
- Financial Difficulties: Are they constantly short on money, borrowing, or selling possessions to gamble? Are bills going unpaid?
- Mood Swings: Are they experiencing significant mood changes, like irritability, anxiety, or depression, related to gambling wins or losses?
- Chasing Losses: Are they trying to win back what they’ve lost by gambling more?
- Preoccupation: Are they constantly thinking about gambling, planning their next bet, or reliving past gambling experiences?
- Relationship Problems: Is gambling causing arguments, tension, or a breakdown in communication within the relationship?
- Withdrawal Symptoms: Do they become agitated or restless when they can’t gamble?
If you notice several of these signs, it’s time to have a conversation and explore support options.
Where to Find Help: Resources for Partners and Families
The good news is, there’s a lot of help available in New Zealand. You don’t have to go through this alone. Here are some key resources:
Gambling Helpline
This is the first port of call for many. The Gambling Helpline (0800 654 655) offers free, confidential support 24/7. They can provide information, counselling, and connect you with other services. They also have online chat options if you prefer to communicate that way. The Helpline is staffed by trained professionals who understand the complexities of problem gambling and can offer practical advice and emotional support.
Problem Gambling Foundation
The Problem Gambling Foundation of New Zealand is a leading provider of gambling harm services. They offer a range of programs and resources, including counselling, education, and support groups. Their website, pgf.nz, is a treasure trove of information, including self-assessment tools, articles, and guides for partners and families. They also run public awareness campaigns to reduce the stigma associated with problem gambling. They have offices and outreach programs throughout the country.
Te Hiringa Hauora (Health Promotion Agency)
Te Hiringa Hauora is a government agency that works to improve the health and wellbeing of New Zealanders. They provide funding and support for various gambling harm reduction initiatives, including public health campaigns and research. Their website offers valuable information and resources on problem gambling, including tips for talking to someone about their gambling, and how to support them.
Family and Whānau Support Groups
Connecting with other families and whānau who have experienced similar challenges can be incredibly helpful. Support groups provide a safe space to share experiences, learn coping strategies, and receive encouragement. The Problem Gambling Foundation and other organisations often run these groups. Check their websites or contact the Gambling Helpline to find a group near you.
Financial Counselling
Problem gambling often leads to financial difficulties. Financial counselling can help partners and families manage debt, create a budget, and regain control of their finances. The MoneyTalks website (moneytalks.co.nz) provides access to free, independent financial advice. They can help you understand your rights, negotiate with creditors, and develop a plan to get back on track.
How to Support Your Loved One
Supporting someone with a gambling problem isn’t easy, but it’s crucial. Here are some tips:
- Educate Yourself: Learn as much as you can about problem gambling. Understanding the condition will help you provide better support.
- Communicate Openly: Talk to your loved one about your concerns in a calm and non-judgmental way.
- Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries about what you will and won’t tolerate. This might include refusing to lend money or covering gambling debts.
- Encourage Professional Help: Encourage your loved one to seek professional help from a counsellor or therapist.
- Take Care of Yourself: Supporting someone with a gambling problem can be emotionally draining. Make sure you prioritize your own well-being by seeking support for yourself.
- Avoid Enabling: Don’t enable their gambling by covering up their losses, making excuses for them, or providing them with money.
- Be Patient: Recovery from problem gambling takes time and effort. Be patient and supportive throughout the process.
The Importance of Early Intervention
The sooner someone gets help, the better the chances of recovery. Don’t wait until things get really bad. Encourage your loved one to seek help as soon as you notice a problem. Early intervention can prevent the problem from escalating and causing further damage to their life and relationships.
Conclusion: A Helping Hand, Not a Judgmental Eye
As regular gamblers, we might not always fully grasp the impact problem gambling can have on those around us. But by understanding the resources available and being prepared to offer support, we can make a real difference. Remember, it’s about being a supportive partner, family member, or friend. It’s about encouraging help and understanding the journey of those affected. By knowing where to find help and how to offer it, we can help build stronger communities and support those who need it most. Start with a conversation, and take it from there. Your support can make all the difference.